Yes, We're Okay

It's been almost a week since We Don't Even Fight Anymore came out and I just want you to know that my wife and I are okay. Pretty great, actually.

I'm answering a question you probably don't have here, but it can be real weird putting out breakup songs when you're in the middle of a strong relationship. I had a long talk with my wife about it last week - how weird it can feel to step into a role and have that on display for the world - or some portion of it - without much context. We laughed about how sad I look in the artwork and video.

Von Bieker is a character. Me. But it's also not me, you know? He's a place to try things on. To hide. To reveal.

That said, We Don't Even Fight Anymore is inspired by a true story - but not mine.

I love my wife very much, and we do indeed fight :) Not as much or as loud as we once did, but we care enough to choose our battles and have it out.

Which is what this song is about - caring enough to fight for love.

Here's where it came from.

One night after my set years ago a listener came up to tell me my wife and I were lucky because we still fight (I'd sung a song about that). His relationship had gone cold and there just wasn't any passion left for fighting.

He and his wife were living a stark truce. Separate rooms. Separate lives. He confided that they were pretty much just waiting out the kids' adolescence so they could split up with minimal collateral damage.

It was one of the saddest things I'd ever heard. I couldn't imagine living that way. So of course I went home and wrote a song about it.

The song was written from a single perspective until years later I heard TAYLR sing in Calgary. I asked them if they'd duet this with me and they agreed. Suddenly the song had two sides.

What if both parties were lamenting the slow fade of the relationship, but neither could bring themselves to address it.

Even more tragic.

Whoever it is you love – whoever it is that loves you – keep fighting for them. Even if it sometimes means fighting with them. It's not fun but it's worth it.

Hear the song wherever you listen here.

Thanks to all of you for listening to this one - it's just passed 500 streams today which is FANTASTIC for a first week for me.

I've been enjoying your reactions to the tune - please do send me an email with your thoughts on hearing it :)

In dumb hope,

(Dave) Von Bieker
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